Discipline is a method of directing the child’s behavior by certain rules, reinforcing his correct behavior, and also destroying his unacceptable behavior.
Although discipline is perceived as a method that requires being strict and harsh, contrary to what is thought, it is the second important resource that parents will provide for their child, as well as love, and it certainly does not mean punishment.
Discipline and setting boundaries are necessary for the child to prepare for life, to explore the world safely, to develop self-confidence, to be stable and to learn to respect others.
The main purpose of discipline is to teach the child self-discipline over time, while reinforcing the right behaviors and destroying the wrong behaviors.
A child is not born knowing the boundaries, he learns by experiencing right and wrong behaviors, and in the process he also tries what he is not allowed to do, he continues to try until his parents direct him.
In the fourth and fifth month, the baby bites the breast while sucking, and the mother does not allow this behavior is an example of an attempt to explore its boundaries.
There are many things that the baby, who gains mobility when he starts to crawl, will discover around him. While exploring his surroundings, the baby will do what he should not do, touch what should not be touched. He will repeat the same behavior until he learns the boundaries that parents have drawn by blocking him.
The baby constantly tries his limits and expects guidance from parents. The baby learns the rules and boundaries in three steps; he discovers the boundaries by trying them out in the first step, learns what he can and cannot do by testing those around him in the second step, internalizes the rules and boundaries he has just learned in the third and last step at the end of many trials.
A child without discipline and no boundaries is like a lost child, he cannot predict right and wrong behavior, he cannot know why he is protecting himself and what he will experience with confidence. Discipline is the area that parents create so that the child can safely experience and learn about the world and relationships.
The most important rule of discipline is to be determined. If a rule that is applied one day is punctured the next day, or if the parents apply different rules, or if the other does not adopt the rule that one applies, the child will be confused and will not be able to internalize the rule correctly.
The message that the child receives from this blacklessness is that the rules are subject to change depending on the situation, and he does not need to follow the rule. Of course, the child will not understand the rules and boundaries at the first warning, so it is also important to be decisive. The child who receives the same reaction with each attempt will eventually learn what not to do.
A small number of them are logical, feasible, their continuity can be ensured, and it is necessary from the point of view of effective discipline to establish rules that everyone in the house follows. Interfering with everything the child does and making too many rules negatively affects even the most compliant child.
Therefore, it is important to set rules only on those issues that are considered important and give the right instructions at the right time. When making rules, the characteristics of the child, the level of development, the level of maturity, the need to explore, his temperament, what he can and cannot achieve should be taken into account.
A parent who does not follow the rules himself and is not disciplined cannot expect his child to follow the rules and be disciplined.
A child who is not allowed to eat junk food before dinner time, when he sees his father having a snack before dinner, will not want to follow this rule. As with any behavior, parents should set an example for the child in terms of following the rules and discipline.
Discipline is important in children’s education. Parents want their children for their love, care, compassion, and confidence, as well as stable and consistent limits determined their attitudes and discipline, at peace with themselves and the external world, children are powerful, safe, challenging, will facilitate individuals to be peaceful and happy.