20 Jan

Fear is a feeling that is excluded, despised and denied by society.

A person who shows that he is afraid is treated as ‘weak ’. I think that this social reaction to fear can be explained by the fact that the individual who sees the fear of the other reminds him of his own existential fears.

Shot of a frightened little girl being kept awake by scary shadows

Just as these discourses do not solve the current problem, they also cause individuals to suppress their emotions and their tensions to increase and continue for many times.

The child, offended because he is afraid, feels lonely and helpless. He thinks that his parent does not understand him and develops negative beliefs about him: ‘I’m different’, ‘I’m weak’, ‘I’m inadequate’, ‘I’m weak’, etc.

The concepts of fear and anxiety are words that are often confused and used interchangeably. In its simplest form, fear is an emotion that we feel and have an object for the dangers that exist in the current moment. Anxiety, on the other hand, is a feeling that may occur in the future and often has an unclear object and source.

Children develop various fears at the stages of development. “What fears do children experience at what age?” the answer to the question is actually very variable.

Each age period has its own specific fears. a 6-month-old baby may be afraid of noise, a 1-year-old baby may be afraid of strangers other than his parents, a 4-year-old child may be afraid of monsters, a 9-year-old child may be afraid of thieves, a 12-year-old adolescent may be afraid of the menstrual cycle.

Fear is a healthy feeling, contrary to popular belief. Just like happiness, sadness, disgust, surprise, fear is a feeling that should be welcomed in the heart and has functionality many times. Through their fears, children learn to adapt to their environment, cope with their issues, avoid dangers. If it were not for the feeling of fear, we would have acted without caution, without reasoning, and our survival, the continuation of our generation, would have been out of the question.

The main fears that we commonly see in children are;
• Separation from the family and separation
• Contacting other children and adults
• Physical fears (swimming, cycling, etc.)
• Fears associated with the environment and nature (animals, insects, etc.)
• Fears associated with the medical process (doctor, nurse, vaccine, dentist, etc.)
• Fears associated with the unknown ( death, darkness, god, religions, etc.)
• Fears associated with imaginary processes (monsters, zombies, etc.)
I will also touch on how parents can support their children in this process in the next post. But I would like to remind you that every child and family is unique. Families know their children better than anyone else and can determine which of these tips their children need. Therefore, I recommend that you follow my recommendations through the filter of your family culture.

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